When it comes to our healing layers of self
When we engage ourselves in our evolutionary healing process – I believe that what can we understand about one peel of one onion – cannot begin to describe who We Are. There is no space enough to view, observe all we have in ourselves churning up, knocking us about… etc.. don’t you agree ?
One peel of onion layer – we, the human species are so much more than that. Our suffering – our human progress is more than an onion layer could possibly depict for us – right? We need an image that gives us some space and some context to place / arrange what we are grappling with to find first our bearings and then to find our meanings… To get to know ourselves more genuinely, deeply, properly…
In our healing work, when we deal with our “lot of the past”, and we do feel we did it now, just like with the onion we find soon enough, – ah, there is yet another layer underneath… And even if slightly modified, we discover that we have our similar lot to work through, thoroughly one more time… at this layer too. Hence I imagine someone thought of onion and tears we have when we peel it.
Yet to help us do this, maybe we can consider an image of another common structure, maybe a building – a house or a multi-story building – if we have a lot we need to heal in ourselves – if there was trouble for longer than a year in our development that needs healing now. An image of a building – the floors, the furniture, the stairwells, the mezzanine levels, the basement, the foundations of it… Or we can be better supported by an image of a boat, or a car, a fleet of cars perhaps – if these metaphors-images more easily and naturally speak to us. and furnishings – that can make sense to us as we ‘bravely’ acknowledge the painful, the seemingly ‘un-acknowledge-able (until it’s viewed, attended to) in ourselves…? And thus feel more ready to roll our sleeves up… to engage, and to clear out and to fully see…
No matter what we choose, what really matters is our own inner understanding – our space, our scope to allow for our own understanding of ourselves in our own personal universe of existence…
Allowing for our understanding – to have some room to move as we need to, and to make some sense… For the more space and gradually – items in it we give to ourselves for this image, the harder we make ourselves to work at this time on our own reclaiming of our own healthy inner self. And that space is what we stretch ourselves to, where we have to allow for our understanding to work hard and to accommodate – because we deserve it, and we need it.
Where the onion wouldn’t exactly allow or encourage us to stretch ourselves – replacing it with something readily available to our consciousness – to help us give our inner discomfort some more relevance, same more space to show itself and to speak to us – what they need – to tell us so that we can make space provision for their fuller and bit fuller yet needs – so they know we understand, we are willing to hold and to witness them for as long as they require us to.
For they are much more to us than what an onion is able to provide a meaning for – to us, despite the tears running down our face… and our opening the window for some more fresh air… to breathe… To breathe… We are so much more than an onion…
kounselling 
Yes, we are so much more than an onion … and it’s important we stay in touch with the beautiful self within.
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I agree an onion metaphor isn’t quite big enough. I image my inner world as made up of many different people. They are different ages, have different experiences, etc. But they all seem like a human soul to me, and interacting with them as such feels appropriate.
I don’t literally think of them as independent people. I think the human brain naturally contains many sides. Our level of integration and harmony might define health.
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of course there are many different views that arise in ourselves as you say, human brain is such… Indeed, with all of that I couldn’t agree more…
Interesting point, thank you. I wonder when you say: “I image my inner world as made up of many different people. They are different ages, have different experiences.”
Do these feel like “internalised characters” (in psychotherapy there is often reference to internalised abusers for example, but also others) from the past, or if not whole characters, then as certain internalised qualities of some people or kids that you might have known at different ages of yourself…?
And, I also would be curious, how would you say – for you it feels – that they got in there…?
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