I am pleased to say that Spillwords have chosen to publish “Pain is only an experience”, which I wrote and posted here in November 2020.
I have submitted to them some of my newer items, but this is the one they chose, and I am delighted about it too, as well as truly greatful.
Spillwords publish lovely material from a wide variety of writers across the globe. I have enjoyed some great poems and stories that they have published. Some of them are from well known writers as well as from new authors.
Thank you so much. Here’s the article.
https://spillwords.com/pain-is-only-an-experience/
kounselling 
Congratulations, Marija! What a great piece. I appreciated the perspective on pain. The observation correlation you suggest makes so much sense.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you, Carrie
I find Life teaches us best, don’t you?
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes! Absolutely agree.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Congratulations!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Why, thank you v much 🙂
LikeLike
Congratulations! 🎉 It’s a great piece. Looking forward to trying your advice out.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much. 💓
Can I look forward to learning how it went for you, if you tried it…?
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, I’ll reply here and let you know. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
I would love that. Thank you 😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
I have had some opportunities to try this technique out. I am finding that in the moment I often forget/or am unable to get the distance from the feelings needed to witness them/as opposed to being lost within them.
However, I am finding that on reflection I am able to see the sides of me that were trying to be seen in the moment. I can see the fears or memories that were setting them off. I then try to sit with those feelings, and validate their concerns and hurts, but also reassure them things are different this time (the past is not repeating). This does bring a soothing….though I suspect these feelings will arise suddenly again.
I am hopeful though that next time these same feelings get set off, I may be able to catch them earlier in the moment. And as you’ve described witness them, and give them the validation and reassurance they need, and they will ease.
🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you for your lovely comment.
That sounds like a good way of addressing, observing, understanding and validating oneself. I am glad to read this. And I know you are in therapy, so bearing that in mind I don’t wish to interfere at all. It wouldn’t be right.
Only I was intrigued when you wrote: “This does bring a soothing….though I suspect these feelings will arise suddenly again.” The word “suddenly” caught my attention – why suddenly?
Also as this follows the item where you try to re-assure your fearful and otherwise difficult feelings that things are now different. Maybe this is not entirely what these inner experiences want from you, for they might wish to scream back: but why did it happen, why did it happen even once? They may be more interested in that – because until that is understood to the very core of it – they are not going to buy the “re-assurance” – because the person reassuring them doesn’t know herself – right ? – please forgive me, if I went too far…
LikeLiked by 1 person
You’ve definitely hit on something, thank you for sharing your thoughts honestly ❤️.
I’m actually going to talk to my therapist about this. I feel as though the issues with my parents are resolved/accepted…but when I actually acknowledge my emotional landscape and frequent dreams…it seems clear like you said, there are unanswered pieces and unresolved parts that still need attention. They carry a lot of pent up emotion/energy that can flood out.
Thanks again, I really appreciate you sharing your perspective. I feel it’s turned my focus in a really helpful direction. 🌷
LikeLiked by 1 person